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Breaking the Cycle: Dealing with Negative Thought Patterns


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We all have moments when our minds get stuck in negative thought patterns. It might start with a small worry, a critical thought about ourselves, or a fear of failure, but soon enough, it spirals into a cycle of negativity that can fuel anxiety, depression, or feelings of hopelessness. These patterns are incredibly common, yet they can be damaging to our mental health if left unchecked.

In this blog post, I’ll explore how to identify and challenge these negative thought patterns and introduce tools, including cognitive-behavioural techniques, that can help you break the cycle. By recognising and actively working to shift your thinking, you can regain control and foster a healthier, more balanced mindset.


What Are Negative Thought Patterns?

Negative thought patterns are automatic, unhelpful ways of thinking that distort reality and contribute to mental health struggles. They can be persistent, affecting how we view ourselves, our relationships, and the world around us. Some common examples of negative thinking include:

  1. Catastrophising

    • Imagining the worst-case scenario in any situation. For instance, if you make a mistake at work, you may start thinking, "I’m going to get fired," even if it’s unlikely.

  2. Black-and-White Thinking

    • Seeing everything in extremes. Things are either good or bad, with no middle ground. For example, "If I don’t succeed at this, I’m a total failure."

  3. Personalisation

    • Taking blame for things beyond your control. If a friend cancels plans, you might assume it’s because they don’t like you anymore, rather than considering other possible reasons.

  4. Mind Reading

    • Assuming you know what others are thinking, usually assuming the worst. For instance, "They didn’t respond to my text, so they must be upset with me."

  5. Overgeneralisation

    • Drawing broad conclusions based on one negative event. For example, "I didn’t get the job; I’ll never be successful."

These thoughts, while often automatic, reinforce feelings of inadequacy, fear, or anxiety, making it difficult to break free from the cycle. The good news is that once you learn to identify these patterns, you can begin to challenge and change them.


Identifying Negative Thought Patterns

The first step in breaking the cycle is becoming aware of your thoughts. This is not always easy, as negative thought patterns are often ingrained and happen without us even realising it. Here are a few ways to start identifying them:

  1. Journaling

    • Keep a journal of your thoughts throughout the day, especially when you notice a change in your mood. Write down the thoughts that come up and reflect on whether they’re rational or exaggerated. Over time, you’ll start to recognise recurring patterns of negativity.

  2. Mindfulness

    • Practising mindfulness can help you become more aware of your thoughts in real-time. Mindfulness encourages you to observe your thoughts without judgment, allowing you to see them as just thoughts—not facts. For more on how mindfulness can support mental health, see my post Mindfulness and Meditation for Mental Health.

  3. Emotional Triggers

    • Pay attention to when your mood shifts or when you feel particularly anxious, stressed, or down. These moments often trigger automatic negative thoughts. Identifying the trigger and the thought that followed can give you valuable insight into your thought patterns.


Challenging Negative Thought Patterns

Once you’ve identified your negative thoughts, the next step is to challenge them. Cognitive-behavioural techniques (CBT) are particularly effective in this area, as they focus on identifying and changing unhelpful thinking patterns. Here are some ways to challenge and reframe negative thoughts:

  1. Examine the Evidence

    • Ask yourself, "What evidence do I have that this thought is true?" and "What evidence do I have that it’s not true?" Often, we assume the worst without any real evidence to back it up. For example, if you’re thinking, "I’m going to fail this project," look at your past successes or the effort you’re putting in now to challenge that thought.

  2. Consider Alternative Explanations

    • Instead of jumping to negative conclusions, think about other possible explanations for the situation. For example, if a friend cancels plans, instead of assuming they don’t want to spend time with you, consider that they might be busy or dealing with their own issues.

  3. Ask Yourself: Is This Thought Helpful?

    • Some thoughts, even if they seem true, aren’t helpful. Ask yourself whether this thought is helping you move forward or if it’s just dragging you down. If it’s not helpful, it’s worth working on letting it go.

  4. Practice Self-Compassion

    • Often, negative thought patterns are harsh and self-critical. It’s important to replace these with more compassionate thoughts. Instead of thinking, "I’m a failure," try reframing it as, "I’m doing my best, and it’s okay if things don’t go perfectly."

  5. Challenge All-or-Nothing Thinking

    • If you’re stuck in black-and-white thinking, remind yourself that there’s usually a middle ground. Things don’t have to be either perfect or terrible. For example, instead of thinking, "I messed up, so everything is ruined," try, "I made a mistake, but I can fix it, and things will be okay."


Tools for Breaking Negative Thought Cycles

Beyond cognitive-behavioural techniques, there are other tools and practices that can help you break free from negative thought patterns:

  1. Cognitive Restructuring

    • Cognitive restructuring is a CBT technique where you actively challenge and reframe negative thoughts. It involves identifying a negative thought, evaluating its validity, and replacing it with a more balanced or realistic thought. Over time, this process can help retrain your brain to think in more constructive ways.

  2. Gratitude Practice

    • Practising gratitude is an excellent way to shift your focus away from negativity. By regularly acknowledging what you’re thankful for, you train your brain to focus more on the positive aspects of your life. This can help balance out the tendency to dwell on the negative.

  3. Behavioural Activation

    • Negative thought patterns often lead to avoidance behaviours, where we withdraw from activities that could make us feel better. Behavioural activation encourages us to re-engage with these activities, whether it’s socialising, exercising, or pursuing hobbies. By changing our behaviour, we can disrupt negative thoughts and improve our mood.

  4. Mindfulness Meditation

    • Regular mindfulness meditation can help you become more aware of your thoughts and less reactive to them. By observing your thoughts without judgment, you create distance between yourself and the negative patterns, making it easier to break the cycle.

  5. Talk to Someone

    • Sometimes, we get so caught up in our negative thoughts that it’s hard to gain perspective. Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist can help you see the situation more clearly. They can offer insight and support, helping you challenge the thoughts that are holding you back. Building a support system, as I mentioned in Building a Mental Health Support System, is key to mental health recovery.


Conclusion: Breaking the Cycle

Breaking the cycle of negative thought patterns is not something that happens overnight, but with consistent effort and the right tools, it’s possible to regain control over your thoughts. By identifying these patterns, challenging them with cognitive-behavioural techniques, and practising self-compassion, you can disrupt the cycle and move toward healthier thinking.

Remember, you don’t have to do this alone. If you’re struggling with negative thoughts, reach out to a mental health professional who can guide you through cognitive-behavioural therapy or other helpful approaches. It’s a process, but with patience and persistence, you can begin to break free from the hold of negative thinking and move forward on your mental health journey.


A note about the author: Craig Field (me) is not a trained counsellor or therapist. I do try to offer advice based on my own personal experience; however, you should always talk to a medical practitioner or qualified therapist to come up with a tailored plan to help with your illness.

My knowledge comes from my own personal, lived experience and that of witnessing people close to me navigating the mental health system.

These blog posts are not intended to replace your doctor or psychologist. 

Together we CAN make a difference!

If this post has brought up some difficult thoughts for you, please seek help from your doctor or one of the services listed below. In an emergency dial 000.

 

13YARN 13 92 76

Blue Knot Helpline 1300 657 380

First Nations Support Line 1800 959 500

Headspace 1800 650 890

Mens Helpline 1300 789 978

Standby support after suicide 1300 727 247


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